Some keys to not arrive a few minutes late and get used to being on time.
As much as it is known that keeping others waiting is a nuisance and that the time they lose is money, there are some people who have real problems being punctual in their appointments and meetings. It is a phenomenon that is difficult to explain, it just happens. Before they know it, they leave home with much less time than necessary, and end up consistently late.
However, these behavioral tendencies can be corrected, and anyone can get used to the habit of always or almost always being on time. How to do it? For that, it is good to get in touch with the principles of the cognitive-behavioral approach.
Modifying ideas and habits
This psychological approach is based on a premise that, so simple, seems revolutionary; It consists of modifying both beliefs and habits (habitual ways of behaving, moving, etc.) so that a new way of acting becomes consolidated.
So, if you want to learn to be punctual, you have to change both the actions, from the smallest details, to the thoughts and the way in which the consequences of those actions are interpreted.
Knowing this, let’s go on to see some useful indications to, little by little, change habits.
Tips for being punctual
This series of keys to be punctual are indicative, and you have to know how to adapt and apply them to each case. They offer an overview of the problem and its possible solutions, but in case many problems appear and these significantly damage the quality of life, it is advisable to go directly to a professional who offers personalized treatment.
1. Set alarms systematically
Every time an appointment is set, you have to write it down in an agenda and set an alarm to sound at the moment you have to start preparing to go. It is extremely important not to postpone this phase, because it is easy to give it little importance and end up falling into oblivion.
2. Discard the optimistic option
The phenomenon by which some people are always late is a kind of procrastination, or “I’ll do it tomorrow syndrome”, although in these cases it occupies time limits that instead of occupying several days occupy minutes. That means that, unconsciously, we make excuses for not having to go out at the right time, usually because it is lazy.
Many times you are late because it is assumed that you will have a stroke of luck when it comes to moving quickly to the place where you have stopped. For example, the belief that buses will arrive just as we approach the stop. It is necessary to anticipate the appearance of these beliefs so that we can recognize them when they appear in our mind and then immediately discard them, as a rule, so as not to fall into their seductive influence.
3. Record hours of travel
For the most important appointments, it is good to write down a mini-schedule on the sequence of actions that must be followed to arrive on time, highlighting the most important phases of a process that can last less than an hour. For example, when to start dressing, combing your hair, leaving the house, etc. The initial stages are the most important, and therefore should be more numerous and more detailed than the rest.
Every time you are late, even for a minute, you have to pay a small fine, which can consist of a number of coins worth a dinner, for example. If this commitment is made in front of more people, the better, because that way there is greater pressure to fulfill it. In addition, that fine must be paid in the next 24 hours.
5. No running
This rule is self explanatory. In addition, it has two functions. On the one hand, it prevents the possibility of leaving late at the prospect of being able to make up time running. On the other hand, the stress generated by being late to a place and not being able to run means that, if this happens, it serves as a much more powerful lesson about the type of situations to avoid.
6. Cheat the clock
In the beginning, it is good to take ten minutes off the time you are staying and take this very seriously as part of the process of learning to be punctual. This will make it possible to experience the positive sensations produced by reaching the sites within the established time and not wanting to return to the previous situation.
Somehow, this situation serves to begin to experience what it is like not to go with the concern that you are late everywhere, and to see that it is possible to do so if you follow rules that, despite seeming to be the rules of a game, work .