Some find it difficult to stop thinking like emperors, but with effort it is possible to motivate themselves.
There are certain people who, because they are badly accustomed, have the problem of wanting everything : the possible and the impossible, what depends on oneself and what does not, and what only comes through effort and what does through luck. .
Many of them also realize that they have a problem, but they do not know how to break that mental habit that leads them to be capricious people and that at the moment of truth is more frustrating than moments of well-being.
It must be taken into account that in order to change one’s way of being it is necessary to modify both the way in which one thinks and the physical habits of day to day, that is, simply reading or speaking does not achieve much. However, it is possible to start from a series of theoretical-practical guidelines. Next we will focus on just that: how to stop being someone capricious.
Guidelines to stop being capricious
Below you can read the key points to work on day to day to manage life expectancies more effectively and abandon the ideas and customs that lead to the whimsical mentality.
1. Set priorities
It is very important to be clear about what is most important in our lives. To do this, there is nothing like writing down on a sheet of paper what is believed to be truly important and then classifying those elements into 4 hierarchically ordered categories of importance. The first 3 categories can only contain 3 items.
2. Work on Emotional Intelligence
To live in a more harmonious way according to what we consider important, it is very good to enhance our Emotional Intelligence, which is dedicated to analyzing, recognizing and regulating emotions and feelings.
This is very useful, for example, to know how to properly interpret the nature of frustration, and to know to what extent it is well founded and valid reasons for being sad, angry, stressed, etc.
3. Set ambitious goals
Many times, the tendency to the capricious mentality is born from a lack of objectives, to get used to receiving small rewards without having to do anything. That is why the feeling of reward that is born after trying hard in a medium or long-term project is very positive to give up this type of pseudo-rewards.
For example, if we intend to write a short novel and finish it, that feeling of well-being will be associated with something deserved, which has been done by oneself, and with that precedent the habit of depending on whims that are satisfied “from the outside” is reduced, since the sensation it generates is less intense. In addition, the level of self-esteem and self-confidence will have increased, making it easier for excuses to not make an effort yourself.
4. Lean on the team
Going from having subjects to colleagues on a team is an excellent motivation to stop thinking like an emperor. In this sense, the closeness of other people who also pursue their goals and invest efforts in them is very motivating and leads us to strive like them (or more).
In short, just as in sports the members of a team encourage each other to continue striving, something very similar happens in practically any area of the first leg: the community leads us to try harder, since we have someone to reflect on our own efforts when comparing ourselves.
5. Learn to recognize cravings
Knowing when our capricious interior begins to claim the reins of our body is very positive when it comes to preventing this from happening. For example, right after you have asked someone for something, take a moment to think if it would not be more appropriate to get what you ask for yourself, or if it is a realistic request. For this, it is good to use a reminder, such as a string tied to the wrist during the first days.
Little by little, that moment of “stopping to think” can move towards anticipation, so that it occurs between the moment when the craving appears and the moment of asking for something out loud, but not afterwards. D what it is about is to add difficulties little by little, without posing very sudden changes.
6. Keep busy
Filling free time with goals, be they long or short term, helps to disengage from the habit of receiving and accepting favors, if only because there is no time for it. It is best to set goals that only one can reach, so as not to fall into the temptation of asking others to do the hardest part of the task for us.
For example, exercising to get fit, learning a new language, learning by reading more, etc. The idea is to promote one’s own personal development through different strategies.