Rumination is a common source of discomfort for most people. What to do before her?
It has ever happened to all people: we spend hours ruminating thoughts. Something worries us and that worry, fear and even anxiety does not leave our mind (and the rest of our body).
Ruminating negative or unpleasant thoughts is one of the main symptoms of both depression and anxiety or fear, but it is not only a clinical situation, but it is also common in human beings without disorders when we experience some type of unpleasant fact that It impacts us (emotional breakups, deception, changes at work, financial difficulties, fear of what others will think, etc.).
Why does it happen to us? What does it lead you to? Do you have a solution?
We usually consider ourselves mental beings, who reason and arrive at logical decisions, but in reality we are emotional beings. Every second of the day we feel emotions and they influence us both in our mood and in our actions, decisions, interpretations, communication, way of relating, etc.
In reality we are not so rational, but imperfectly rational. Ruminating thoughts is above all a consequence of the emotional state in which we live: fear, anxiety, anguish and insecurity.
In recent years I have accompanied people from up to 13 different countries as a psychologist and coach in their processes of personal change (with a focus on both personal and professional life). Throughout this trajectory, I have verified that whenever there has been an impact situation that has moved our foundations and personal beliefs, we get used to ruminate on very recurring, negative and exhausting thoughts. In all cases, whatever your personal situation, it is necessary to work with the emotional base that leads you to that situation.
If you want to know how we got to ruminate so much and especially how to solve it, here is a video where I explain it in more detail (the article continues below).
What to do to stop ruminating?
Ruminating thoughts is not only a mental activity, but above all an emotional one. We feel fear, insecurity and anxiety, because we interpret the world as dangerous due to a past experience.
Ruminating thoughts is intended to always be alert and try to discover how to protect ourselves. However, that protection or overprotection is not functional, but a mode of adaptation in relation to what has happened to you that has ended up becoming the biggest problem.
There are two essential aspects to approach the problem and stop ruminating negative and recurring thoughts: working with the emotional base that causes them and finding different actions that are totally incomparable with the fact of rumination.
When we ruminate or think excessively about what worries or scares us, exactly as in a case of insomnia, it happens because in a certain sense we want it and we consider it useful. We ruminate because we need it, because it is the only way we think we can protect ourselves.
Rumination is an activity that you accompany with an activity that makes it possible. You can ruminate while you walk, while you run, while you look at social networks, but it is not possible to ruminate if at the same time you keep your concentration on your breathing, perform some activity that keeps your attention active (some activity that requires detail) or you act focusing on your own well-being. Having a concrete, measurable and observable plan of action is absolutely essential to achieve the change you need.
If you want to take that step, at empoderamientohumano.com you have the possibility of taking first steps in your personal change process that will lead you to understand and manage your emotions, as well as to be able to design a concrete action plan that will lead you towards your change and learning and above all stay with you forever (since you learn mainly about yourself). The fundamental factor in this case is to have an expert professional company.
The most important aspect, however, is learning to have your emotions on your side rather than against you. By learning to understand and manage your emotions, you manage to live based on acceptance, peace, trust and openness, instead of so conditioned by fear, anxiety, frustration, anger or insecurity.
Rumination is something that has happened to all of us and we know how exhausting it is. Don’t allow it to become an exhausting habit that erodes your well-being. The change you need is possible only if you make it happen.