Dissatisfaction is can affect almost all of our day-to-day experiences.
Throughout our lives it is natural to feel dissatisfaction, either in relation to our personal, sentimental or professional life. However, when that dissatisfaction lasts too long it ends up creating discomfort, limits your life and you feel more and more difficulty in your relationships or with yourself. Why do you feel dissatisfied or dissatisfied? How to overcome that feeling?
In principle, this emotion, state of mind and also interpretation about what is happening is not entirely negative. Dissatisfaction is part of our life and helps us discover what we need to change in our lives; but … is that change really something you want or what you’re afraid of facing? Dissatisfaction helps you achieve concrete changes that you need, but if that dissatisfaction ends up being constant, the problem is another.
Dissatisfaction that doesn’t help
When you do not feel satisfied or satisfied with some aspect of your life, that implies that you are making a negative assessment of what is happening and you focus on what you really want to have, live or experience. This means disconnecting from what is really happening and focusing on a series of alternatives that are not really happening, which generates even more frustration and dissatisfaction.
Of course, you can improve your life in any aspect, and that is something that comes with different actions and with constancy. Dissatisfaction, in principle, is an emotion that helps you achieve these changes (dissatisfaction is actually the beginning of a process of personal change; you want to change because you are tired of what is happening). The problem is when that dissatisfaction is not in what you do … but in what happens around you (your context, partner, people, situation, colleagues, work, etc.)
Here I explain what that dissatisfaction really consists of and how to overcome it in a video. If you want, you can press play to see it, although I continue with the article below.
When your dissatisfaction is related to external factors, such as the behavior of others, their characteristics, context, situations, etc., we have a different problem. Why? Simply because you cannot control what happens around you or the people with whom you interact or live, in a more intimate or superficial way.
Dissatisfaction is an unpleasant emotional state, close to anger and frustration, which comes from making an assessment about yourself (what you think you need and deserve in relation to the other) and the environment or others based on a comparison: always there may be “more and more”. But the comparison is absurd. Everything else leads to another, and so on indefinitely. This is how dissatisfaction ends up being a habitual state in your life: you always see reasons to feel that emotion and you end up evaluating your reality in a negative way.
What is it that makes you never feel satisfied or satisfied? Put the focus on the outside world and value it as the source of your well-being. The outside world is something you cannot control, therefore, having expectations or trying to control it will always lead to frustration, anxiety and a lack of personal satisfaction.
How to solve it
Dissatisfaction is a point of view, but above all an unpleasant feeling and emotional state; Therefore, the solution is to learn to understand and manage not only that emotion, but all related emotions (dissatisfaction, insecurity, frustration, fears, etc.). All the evaluations you make come from emotions that anchor you to that way of feeling, interpreting what happens and living.
Dissatisfaction is usually related to insecurity (which is why you value based on comparisons or, on the contrary, you want to achieve personal changes but you do not finish taking action). Your emotions are with you every second of the day. We are social beings and above all emotional. Being always excited, emotion not only influences your state of mind, but also each decision you make, your actions, the way you interpret and value what happens, yourself and others.
In empoderamientohumano.com I usually make a special proposal to achieve this important and transcendent change in life: it is about taking the first step to get to know yourself better and discover what happens and how to solve it through a process of personal change. You can do it with a free first exploratory session or with the Get Excited program, where you will find resources to take that first step.
Working with you will be the biggest turning point of your life, since it is the only thing you can manage and know. You cannot control the world, only accept it and learn to look at it openly. Fear and insecurity are emotions that make you focus only on what you fear or don’t like. Since your change, everything else will change, as your focus and gaze will change.