Non-verbal language expressed by looking reveals a lot of useful information about others.
Being able to read the eyes of any person, woman or man, has been one of those powers that have been popularly attributed to psychologists.
Although the idea that by observing someone’s gaze you may be able to know what they think is totally false and based on an exaggeration, the truth is that the signals sent by non-verbal language are very useful to know certain things about the state emotional of others.
Now … how is it possible to get to know better what happens in a person’s mind from the observation of their eyes? Let’s see.
Communicating through the eyes
When we converse with someone face-to-face, a good deal of our attention is focused on that person’s eyes, even if we don’t realize it. In normal situations, our gaze is focused on the other’s eyes for more than a third of the time we spend in conversation, as long as we have that person in front of us and looking in our direction.
This indicates, among other things, that the eyes have great expressive power, in part because the muscles involved in their movement and in that of the adjacent areas reflect the state of emotional activation that marks each moment. We have evolved so that a small and almost imperceptible millimeter movement is a message that allows us to know what is happening to the other without generating any noise. But, in addition, we are able to take advantage of this fact to empower it and learn more about the others.
Read the eyes of women and men
The first thing to be clear about is that, although there are certain psychological differences between men and women in statistical terms, they do not exist when reading someone’s eyes. Why? Among other things, because when it comes to experiencing emotions and responding to them, all human beings are quite similar.
The muscles that control the movement of the eyes and the surrounding areas do not move following patterns that show in detail what is being thought, but in any case express sensations and emotions in the most basic sense. Thus, these small differences in the thinking styles of both sexes are not reflected in the look. Reading a woman’s eyes is not significantly different from doing it with any other class of person, for example.
If you are interested in knowing more details about the basic keys to read the look, below you can find the main ones.
1. Brow lift
A brow lift that is not exaggerated indicates that the person pays more attention to controlling their way of communicating and that, in some way, they try to “take the helm” of their expressiveness in a semi-conscious way. However, if the movement is exaggerated this indicates distancing.
2. Dilation and contraction of the pupils
People cannot voluntarily control whether their pupils dilate or contract. This movement can be produced by many variables, such as the lack or excess of light; However, it has been seen that it also influences whether something or someone is seen that is interesting or attractive, in which case they open more.
3. Avoid looking into the eyes
There are two psychological aspects that can be indicated by a refusal to look the other in the eye. If this is done by keeping your gaze down or moving your eyes quickly from one side to the other, it is a sign of insecurity.
On the other hand, if the gaze is kept averted but neither looks down nor quickly sweeps the environment, this is a sign of a feeling of superiority and dominance over the other person.
4. The number of blinks
Blinks accurately reflect the degree of activation of a person’s brain. Someone who is feeling very nervous blinks more, and someone who is attracted to the person with whom they are interacting, too, since their mind is doing many operations at the same time.
This sign indicates detachment and an emotional state linked to a defensive attitude. For example, it can signal disbelief or the anticipation of an attack.
6. The time elapsed during eye contact
Not only do you have to look at the contraction of the eye muscles: it is also good to take into account the time factor. That is why it is relevant to know how much time is spent maintaining eye contact with someone.
If you spend a long time staring at the other person’s eyes, this indicates a willingness for there to be a symmetrical exchange of information by both parties. In contrast, if someone makes less eye contact, this may indicate that they are hiding something and that they prefer not to offer vulnerable flanks by which they can be “attacked.”