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Education, in a way, is a value that is transmitted throughout life. It is a tool that allows us to build our own personality, and that allows us to lay the foundations to coexist in society.
Why is it important to educate in coexistence? What are the rules of coexistence? What are they for? In this article we will answer these questions, and in addition, we will propose 11 rules of coexistence for boys and girls.
What are the rules of coexistence and what are they for? To answer these questions, let’s first make a little reflection.
We will probably spend our whole life -or much of it- living in society, unless we go to live in the mountains as a spiritual respite, or as an alternative to a personal and respectable life.
The fact of living in society implies interacting continuously with other people, similar to us or tremendously different from our way of being, thinking, dressing, etc. That is why it is essential to establish a minimum of coexistence rules to be able to interact in an orderly, respectful and healthy way.
These norms reflect “rules of life” or ways of behaving towards others, and will help us to respect others and to act to respect ourselves. Thus, it is important that we transmit these rules to the little ones, so that they grow up in a healthy way, interacting with others appropriately and always respecting their individual freedom (of choice, thought, expression, etc.).
In this article we propose 11 basic rules of coexistence for boys and girls, which will teach the little ones how they should act from a social point of view when they are in situations that involve contact with other people. These rules, if acquired from a young age, will lay the foundation for an education in adult coexistence.
11 rules of coexistence for boys and girls
Now that we have seen what the rules of coexistence are, what they are for and why they are so important, we are going to know the 11 rules of coexistence for boys and girls below.
1. Greet when you arrive at a site
The first of the rules of coexistence for boys and girls that we consider important is to say hello whenever you arrive at a place. Greeting implies being educated and is part of the basic rules of coexistence in society. You don’t always have to say hello with two kisses (as is the tradition in Spain), but simply say “Hello” upon arrival (or “good morning”, “good afternoon”, etc.).
2. Say goodbye when leaving
In the same way that it is important to say hello, it is also important to say goodbye when you leave. It is also a norm and an action that denotes education and good manners. In addition, we all like people to say goodbye to us when they leave a place, a meeting, a meeting, etc.
3. Give thanks
Another of the rules of coexistence for boys and girls is to thank when they do us a favor or when they have a generous act with us, even if it is only to open the door. Being grateful and grateful is a sign of respect and consideration for others, intrinsic values in good coexistence.
4. Return the things left to us
The next rule of thumb is to return the things that have been loaned to us. In the same way that we like to have things left to us, the other person likes to have them returned. This small action will ensure that in the future, others have enough confidence in us to continue leaving things to us.
Sharing implies being generous with others and not thinking only of oneself. Thus, we can consider this action another of the rules of coexistence for boys and girls important to transmit to the little ones.
The children have to understand that, in the same way that they would like others to share with them on some occasion, they should be reciprocal in that sense. This, logically, does not mean that we should make them understand that they should share everything.
6. Ask permission
Another important rule for the little ones and that, it is good that they understand from the moment they begin to have reason, is the fact of asking permission when we want to use something that is not ours, for example.
We will also ask permission (and so we will transmit it to the children) when we want to enter some place that is not “ours”, when we want to go to the bathroom of a friend or relative’s house, etc.
It seems very logical, but it also seems important to us to consider this action as another of the rules of coexistence for boys and girls, and it is the fact of listening when they speak to us. We all like to be listened to when we speak, so it is another sign of respect and politeness to also listen to others when they speak to us.
Listening implies paying attention and showing interest in what is explained to us. Sometimes what they tell us will not be interesting to us (neither should we deceive), but we should show respect and consideration.
8. Drive away envy
It is natural and frequent to feel envy or jealousy for the possessions (or non-material things) of others, especially when we are small and “we don’t have that”. However, it is good to convey to the little ones that not all of us have to have the same thing and that comparing ourselves with others or envying them does not imply anything good, on the contrary.
It is important to convey the idea of being happy with what we have, while still fighting for those things we want to achieve.
9. Respond when they speak to us
Another of the rules of coexistence for boys and girls, which also seems very logical, is the fact of responding when they speak directly to us. Many children get used to not responding when they talk (especially to adults), either out of shame, fear, laziness …
It is good to convey the idea of responding to the things they tell us, and if we do not want to continue talking, let the other know as well.
Being assertive implies the ability to know how to say “no” to situations, questions or offers that we do not want ; Intrinsically, it implies learning to defend our tastes, interests, desires and rights. This is essential to respect yourself before others. It is not easy to achieve, since assertiveness must be worked a lot, and there are people who find it more difficult to be assertive.
However, this “norm” is essential to work with children, so that when they are adults they have learned to say what they really think, without disrespecting anyone (or hurting anyone). It is about expressing what we want in a sincere and polite way.
11. Ask for forgiveness
Another fundamental rule for coexistence is asking for forgiveness when we hurt someone or when we disrespect them. Sometimes we harm others (or simply annoy them) unconsciously and unintentionally; however, also on these occasions, it is important to apologize.
Asking for forgiveness is a sign of empathy and respect for others, which will help us to take care of friendships.
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