The 3 Pillars Of Balance In Personal Growth

Several keys that have been proposed to guide personal development and change processes.

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Throughout history and geography, one can find endless psychological, philosophical, sociological and religious currents that have tried to offer answers to the existential questions of life that as individuals endowed with intelligence we have been able to ask ourselves.

When someone immerses himself in the study of any of the aforementioned disciplines, he is usually surprised with examples of thought that, seeming contemporary to our questions, are in most cases hundreds, if not thousands of years old. For curious, non-judgmental minds, it will not be a difficult task to delve into the various sources of wisdom that have tried, with varying degrees of success, to resolve such questions effectively.

Being able to establish associative links between those last foundations of these currents, we can find a series of pillars of wisdom that have served as a basis to offer answers yesterday and today.

Get to know yourself, accept yourself, improve yourself

In this effort to find the lowest common divisor of personal balance, we have been able to identify three basic aspects that are repeated over and over again in various techniques and trends that could be summarized in the phrase of Saint Augustine: “Know yourself, accept yourself, overcome yourself.”

In conventional cognitive behavioral therapies, we find how a base of beliefs or thoughts, not always conscious for the individual, activate, maintain or direct their behaviors, being necessary to return to normality, go through a series of treatment phases that would fundamentally consist in:

1. Evaluation

Identify the causal factors of behavior through a previous exploration with different types of assessment tools.

2. Intervention

Use of cognitive and behavioral modification techniques, aimed at recovering normal levels of behavior in reference to the general scale.

3. Follow up

Periodic review of the achievement of the intervention objectives and improvement proposals.

Principles of personal growth from Coaching

In the much-maligned and often mistreated Coaching technique, according to John Whitmore’s CAR model, three basic principles are recognized for its operation, which can be summarized in the acronym of said acronym.

1. Consciousness

It would be formed by an objective part, coming from the possibilities that our own senses offer us. What would come to be personal hardware. And a subjective part, coming from the belief system, values, learning history and other acquired socio-cultural influences, which modify our interpretations of everyday reality. It would correspond to the personal “software”.

2. Self-belief

As a fundamental basis for the successful development of the technique, we work on the idea that the individual has all the personal resources necessary to overcome the difficulties that arise, understanding that their role in this story is not that of the end itself, but the middle one to reach it.

3. Responsibility

Once the previous steps of knowledge and acceptance have been internalized, the protagonist of the coaching process assumes responsibility for action, committing to the execution of new processes that may lead to new solutions. In short, get out of the famous comfort zone and face the path of improvement.

The keys to personal development according to the ACT

Finishing this review, we would find the well-known third generation therapies, and specifically ACT or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. As its name suggests, this type of therapy renounces the old cognitive-behavioral efforts to fight against one’s personal nature, finding the key to development and well-being in:

The acceptation

Acceptance, after self-knowledge, can be seen as a necessary tool to overcome deviations from the norm in terms of thoughts, feelings and behaviors, incorporating certain nuances of an emotional nature with respect to the predecessor techniques.


Commitment, as a personal will to lead the change according to the characteristics and values ​​of our own personal nature.

Finding the psychological balance

As can be seen, there are multiple ways to approach a situation, the same problem, to face a challenge. But if we make an effort of observation, it is not difficult to find those common bases or pillars that sustain personal balance.

At UPAD Psychology and Coaching we are aware of this and we like to go to all kinds of sources of knowledge to implement our work methodology and offer our users all the tools at our disposal for their performance, well-being and personal satisfaction.

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