A simple way to enhance our way of valuing ourselves.
Self-esteem is a sum of perceptions, evaluations, emotions and behaviors oriented towards oneself, towards how we are and what we do, and towards physical characteristics and our way of being. Ultimately, it is the perception we have of ourselves.
On the other hand, self-esteem is very important in your life because it affects your character and the sense that you give to your personal worth. So in this way, it affects your way of being, of acting in the world and of living with others. The way you think, express and feel your emotions, decide and behave is directly influenced by your self-esteem.
In this article we will see what the mirror technique used to achieve adequate self-esteem consists of.
This is how having a good self-esteem influences us
Your self-esteem is closely related to the way in which you feel that you are valued, loved and appreciated by others, and also with how you value, accept and love yourself.
When you achieve a healthy self-esteem, you feel good about who you are, you appreciate your own worth, and you feel pride in your abilities and goals achieved.
On the contrary, when your self-esteem is low you feel that nobody will like you, that nobody will accept you or you consider that you are not good at anything.
Anyone can have problems with self-esteem throughout life. In fact, when our self-esteem is especially vulnerable it is during adolescence, since it is when we are discovering who we are and what is our place in the world. In adulthood we are also exposed to suffer from self-esteem problems, when we go through critical periods in our lives (separation from a partner, loss of job …).
But there is good news. Since our idea of ourselves changes over time, self-esteem is not fixed or fixed for life. So, if you feel that your self-esteem is low, you can increase it.
The mirror technique
With the mirror technique you can improve your self-esteem, since it is based on the personal observation of each one in front of the mirror, as well as on the environment in which we develop.
With the help of a mirror we can improve our self-esteem and, through several questions, you can guide yourself by observing yourself, and doing your own introspection and expressing what you see in the mirror when you look at yourself.
You can do this dynamic with your children, whether they are children or adolescents, since the first years of life are a key stage to improve their concept of themselves.
Of course, before starting I recommend that you collect some prior information; For this, you will have to answer these questions that will clarify your opinion about yourself.
- When you look in the mirror, do you look handsome?
- Do you think you have good things to contribute to others? Which?
- Do you think your friends, family and co-workers like you just the way you are?
- What would you change about your appearance?
- When you feel and look good, do you feel more confident about yourself?
Once you’ve answered these questions, it’s time to look in the mirror.
How to put it into practice?
Stand in front of the mirror and answer these questions:
- What do you see in the mirror?
- What is the person who looks at you from the mirror like?
- Do you know him?
- What good things does that person have?
- What bad things does someone who looks at you in the mirror have?
- What do you like the most about that person?
- Would you change something about the person in the mirror?
You must make the effort to see all the positive characteristics that the person you see in the mirror (you) has, for sure there are many, and thus you will learn to recognize them.
You may be impressed by how you say positive personal characteristics that you perceive about yourself, and that you often do not recognize or value.
It would also be good to also rely on the information that friends or family give about you : know if you agree with what they think of you, what things they see in you that you do not take into account. With this technique you will be able to know what your image is of yourself, how you perceive yourself, what impression you think you make, and work on the most relevant aspects and enhance what you see as most positive.